Usually, my swap-bot nerves are about the grade I may get. This time, however, I am the one having to give a grade, and avoiding it.
Last post, I was kvetching about my nerves, and sharing the fact I actually ended up with a great grade, in the most recent swap-bot “flat envie of fun” post. Well, that worked out–and then the envelope I was owed arrived, from somewhere within the United Kingdom:
A note card with envelope, a couple of postcards, a sticker sheet, 3 little note scraps. and a bookmark. As I was slowly extracting the bits, in great hope of encountering a piece or two of fun, I couldn’t help to think of all the work I put in to my contribution to this trade, that is, to delighting the recipient. Having finally emptied the envelope, I had to ask myself: did the sender think any of this would be actually fun for me?
Well, I like to read, so–bookmark. I postcross, so…postcards. And one is cartoony. I like the tropics, and the sea, and the scraps approach those. Fact is, though, much of this will probably go into a donation bag, and as far as I know, those folks will send it into a landfill. Or I could save them to send as extras in some other swap.
I went back to reread the swap requirements:
Aha, now I pinpointed part of what left me sad–well, NO, I already knew I was quite let down there was no note. WHAT IS THE POINT… never mind, let’s slow down. The swap requirements specify that the sender is to “write a nice note,” and after reexaming everything just to make sure I was missing nothing–no, the sender did not leave me a note of any sort.
Well, what do you think I should do?
There is a rating to be left, and I am putting it off, because I don’t want to do what I think she deserves, which is to leave a 3 on the 1-3-5 scale: “didn’t meet the posted swap requirements.” The thing is, my personal policy is to rate as I trade, which is from a standpoint of generosity. I almost ALWAYS give the added heart on the full 5 rating, even if I don’t necessarily consider the swap “extra special.” Traders have had to try pretty hard, I say, to lose the automatic heart. Well, THIS time, We’re talking not about a heart at all, but about losing that 5 to a 3. And the note — the correspondence — is actually a big thing to me. If it was just SHIPMENTS I wanted, I could buy things for myself online, and actually ensure I received things that would interest me.
So here are my ratings options as I see them:
- Leave a 3 rating, and say it was because the specified note was missing.
- Leave a 5 to be generous, but with no comment of any kind (as some have with her, but I don’t know if it’s because they were feeling like me, or they were just rude)
- Leave a 5 to be generous, and mention that the specified note was missing
I honestly don’t know which of these would make me feel worse. Do I cheese someone off over something she’ll probably consider inconsequential (although it’s my reason for being here), or do I let her fail upwards?